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Health Harvey Howard is the owner of My Gym Childrens Fitness Center in Cherry Hill, New Jersey. He is a certified special education teacher, elementary teacher, guidance counselor, and student assistance professional located in New Jersey. Here he discusses how to handle behavior management in your child. Behavior management is something that starts right off the bat with children. A typical parental mistake that many people make is letting their kids do anything they want until they get older, and then attempting to set limits down the road. By that point, it is too late. By the ages of three or four it is already late, and by the time a child reaches 6 years old, it is over. Researchers .monly talk about the idea that 80% of a childs personality and development is formed by the time he is 6 years old, and that is important for parents to keep in mind when it .es to behavior management issues. Traditionally, the younger ages are when parents have the most time with their children on a day-to-day basis, which is why it is ideal for the parents to be able to teach their child the goals, expectations, and structures for their behaviors during that early period. If a parent waits until his child is 6 years old, and starting school, and then expects that he is going to start towing the line, it is way too late. Set Limits Right off the bat, very early on, you as a parent want to start setting limits for your kids. At My Gym, we talk about who is driving the bus, so to speak. There are times when the parent absolutely must make the decision, and it is imperative that parents understand when those times are. Some examples of that include when you go to the park. The parent should be deciding when playtime is over. Negotiations where parents bargain with the child about one more swing or one more minute with the toy just dont work. The final result is that the parent ends up dragging their child out of the park screaming and crying. But the truth of the matter is that the child was never going to be happy no matter how much extra playtime he got. He just wanted to swing. You have to make the child understand from an early age that everything is not negotiable. Eventually, the child learns to buy into the adult decisions because he knows the consequences are going to be way too difficult. The consequences are going to outweigh the perceived benefit from further negotiations or acting out behaviors.. The child has to see that he is going to lose something if he is negative and disruptive, but that he is going to gain something if he is cooperative. Reinforce the Positive Just as important is that parents learn to constantly verbally reinforce their childs positive behaviors. An example of this would be telling the child that you like how he is sitting, or how quickly he went and got in the car. These are spontaneous reinforcements, not deals. So if the parent gives the child a treat or offers to spend time reading a book together after the child was quiet for a period of time, that wasnt a deal but it was reinforcement. Intermittent spontaneous reinforcement is always stronger than event reinforcement. Thats because when it .es to event reinforcement, as soon as you dont reinforce the behavior, you have broken the pattern and you have broken the covenant. Whereas with intermittent reinforcement, you dont have to offer the treat every single time the child does the positive behavior, and that is OK because it was not a guaranteed event reinforcement to begin with. When you look at the research, time and time again you see that intermittent and spontaneous reinforcement are always stronger than event reinforcement for children. Ultimately, kids have to know that what Mom or Dad says is a final decision, and that the repercussions are only going to worsen if the child keeps pursuing the negative behavior. About the Author: 相关的主题文章: